For those who know us, you will agree that we are very passionate about our speed dating. We have spoken to many guys on the phone giving them inside tips and any other advice. We also run "Information/Tips Seminars" aswell.
Most of the guys who come to our events are good, genuine, sincere, easy going guys who are maybe a bit quiet or reserved. Unfortunately these days, dating is bit of a game and girls are complex creatures. Why is it that at least 60% of the members in our database are girls, yet it is up to us to do all the chasing. Very rarely does a girl ever ring a guy after receiving their matches after an event, its up to us to make contact.
We have been around for quite a while now, here are some tips from our loyal customers who have been before.
About 30-35% of guys at a speed dating event have been before and guess what? These guys will do better than the guys that have never been before. They have got the experience. They know what goes on, what to do or say or more importantly what NOT to do or say. They are less nervous and more confident.
The good looking guys get all the girls....WRONG - How many times have I seen it, one of the least attractive guys in the room get the most "ticks" from the girls. Guess what he had? Confidence, out-going with a firm hand shake and a big smile. After running so many events all around the country, if I were to shut my eyes and only talk and shake hands with the guys when they enter the meet and greet to get their name tag, I bet I could pick the guy(s) who would do the best just from that and not even go by their looks. Why is that? Although guys pick mainly with their eyes, girls generally put importance of looks way down on their list, way below CONFIDENCE. Anyway guys I don't care how much personality or charisma you have, you wont get anywhere rocking up messy in thongs and a singlet which leads us to DRESS...
Dress to impress is what we always say. Girls spend hours getting ready with their hair and makeup. Every event I've ever hosted the girls always come better presented than the guys. Dress up!!! If you can wear a suit or a nice shirt and a pair of pants, DO IT. T-shirt, shorts, thongs/sandals are not recommended. Make sure your hair is combed or neat, hint of aftershave and clean shaven. Little things girls look for; clean and tidy fingernails and clean/new shoes. Chewing your fingernails down to the stubs is a big turn off for girls. Girls who attend speed dating generally don't go for gotees/ beards, tattoos or piercings. Don't risk it guys, get rid of them or cover them up for one night please.
Girls are turned off by guys who are too quiet, passive, timid or lack confidence. Girls are attracted to confident, take charge guys. Make your life sound action packed, that you are a "go-getter". Do not appear too eager or desperate. DO NOT TALK ABOUT EX PARTNERS or tell them you are looking for a wife. Girls like bit of "bad boy" or a guy with a bit of mystery and excitement. Girls like a funny guy who can make them laugh but can also hold a good conversation. Be positive, don't be negative in conversation "I don't like..." "yeh I'm going ok, not too bad."
The biggest mistake I see is guys ringing their matches as soon as they get them. The girls are usually abit shocked and taken back as they didn't expect anyone to ring so soon and haven't even looked at their matches. There are no set rules about what is the best way to contact a girl after a speed dating event.
Put some thought and effort into how you contact your matches. A 5 ot 6 word sms is not going to make a girl feel very special. You have some notes and have already talked to this girl, show you remembered her and your conversation with her. Make her feel like she was the one that stood out that night.
Play it cool, don't act too eager or desperate. Do not bombarde your matches with multiple calls, sms or emails.
What do you do for fun ? Where do you live? What do you do for a living ? Most of the other guys will ask those questions. What is going to separate you from the other 14+ guys who all asked those same questions? Think of something different to ask them, don't make it too out there. Girls love travelling, animals, fashion, music, movies. Get them talking about any of these, listen and be attentive.
Don't talk too much about yourself or boast about your job, money, car etc. MAKE SURE TO MAKE THEM LAUGH at least once, preferably more. You may want to check out our list of Ice Breakers - Questions for a few ideas.